Independance Day

This week, our family, as well as our country celebrated a very important holiday.  Our Independance Day… we were leaving the community fireworks display I began to reflect on what this really means in our day to day lives.   The thing that got me started thinking about it was we were preparing to cross a normally busy street with dozens of other people.   There was a group of developmentally handicapped adults in front of us, when we got to the other side of the street, one of the women got to the curb (it is a high curb at that particular intersection)  and kind of panicked.  She was standing there crying out for help and there were people filing past her just staring at her and getting angry that she was “holding up the crowd”.   My husband was just ahead of her, and a friend of ours was just behind her….they both heard her cries and turned to see what was the matter and both reached out a helping hand to help her up the curb.   What’s sad is that probably 12-15 other adults walked right past her staring and grumbling.   For some reason, that picture just really disturbed me….and then I realized “Well, they have the “freedom” to do that”.     I prefer to use my “freedom” in this great country that we live in, to help others in need.   Sometimes this may mean giving a lunch or waterbottle to a homeless person, or donating our very usable clothing that no longer fits my growing family to the homeless shelter, OR  in this instance, lending a helping hand to someone that needs help stepping up the curb.   Now others use this freedom to walk around the person in need, or to ignore the obviously homeless person on the street, or to speak out against our country, our President, and our military.    It’s rather ironic how differently people use this freedom that we have that has been fought for for the past 230 years…

I received this email today, and just had to pass it along via my  weblog here.


I was sitting alone in one of those loud, casual steak houses that you find all over the country.

You know the type–a bucket of peanuts on every table, shells littering the floor, and a bunch of perky college kids racing around with long neck beers and sizzling platters.

Taking a sip of my iced tea, I studied the crowd over the rim of my
glass. My gaze lingered on a group enjoying their meal.

They wore no uniform to identify their branch of service, but they were definitely “military:” clean shaven, cropped haircut, and that “squared away” look that comes with pride.

Smiling sadly, I glanced across my table to the empty seat where my husband usually sat.

It had only been a few months since we sat in this very booth, talking about his upcoming deployment to the Middle East.

That was when he made me promise to get a sitter for the kids, come back to this restaurant once a month and treat myself to a nice steak.

In turn he would treasure the thought of my being here, thinking about him until he returned home I fingered the little flag pin I constantly wear and wondered where he was at this very moment.

Was he safe and warm?? Was his cold any better?? Were my letters getting through to him?

As I pondered these thoughts, high pitched female voices from the next booth broke into my thoughts.

“I don’t know what Bush is thinking about. Invading Iraq. You’d think that man would learn from his old man’s mistakes. Good lord.

What an idiot!? I can’t believe he is even in office. You do know, he stole the election.”

I cut into my steak and tried to ignore them, as they began an endless tirade running down our president.

I thought about the last night I spent with my husband, as he prepared to deploy. He had just returned from getting his smallpox and anthrax shots.

The image of him standing in our kitchen packing his gas mask still gives me chills.

Once again the women’s voices invaded my thoughts.

“It is all about oil, you know. Our soldiers will go in and rape and steal all the oil they can in the name of ‘freedom’.

Hmmm! I wonder how many innocent people they’ll kill without giving it a thought?? It’s pure greed, you know.”

My chest tightened as I stared at my wedding ring. I could still see how handsome my husband looked in his “mess dress” the day he slipped it on my finger.

I wondered what he was wearing now. Probably his desert uniform, affectionately dubbed “coffee stains” with a heavy bulletproof vest over it.

“You know, we should just leave Iraq alone. I don’t think they are
hiding any weapons. In fact, I bet it’s all a big act just to increase
the president’s popularity.

That’s all it is, padding the military budget at the expense of our
social security and education.

And, you know what else?

We’re just asking for another 9-11.? I can’t say when it happens again that we didn’t deserve it.”

Their words brought to mind the war protesters I had watched gathering outside our base.

Did no one appreciate the sacrifice of brave men and women, who leave their homes and family to ensure our freedom??

Do they even know what “freedom” is?

I glanced at the table where the young men were sitting, and saw their courageous faces change.

They had stopped eating and looked at each other dejectedly, listening to the women talking.

“Well, I, for one, think it’s just deplorable to invade Iraq, and I am
certainly sick of our tax dollars going to train professional
baby-killers we call a military.”

Professional baby-killers?

? I thought about what a wonderful father my husband is, and of how long it would be before he would see our children again.

That’s it! Indignation rose up inside me. Normally reserved, pride in my husband gave me a brassy boldness I never realized I had.

Tonight one voice will answer on behalf of our military, and let her
pride in our troops be known.

Sliding out of my booth, I walked around to the adjoining booth and placed my hands flat on their table.

Lowering myself to eye level with them, smilingly said, “I couldn’t
help overhearing your conversation.

You see, I’m sitting here trying to enjoy my dinner alone.

And, do you know why?

Because my husband, whom I love with all my heart, is halfway around the world defending your right to say rotten things about him.”

“Yes, you have the right to your opinion, and what you think is none of my business.

However, what you say in public is something else, and I will not sit by and listen to you ridicule MY country, MY president, MY husband, and all the other fine American men and women who put their lives on the line, just so you can have the “freedom” to complain. Freedom is an expensive commodity, ladies.

Don’t let your actions cheapen it.”

I must have been louder than I meant to be, because the manager came over to inquire if everything was all right.

“Yes, thank you,” I replied.

Then, turning back to the women, I said, “Enjoy the rest of your meal.”

As I returned to my booth applause broke out. I was embarrassed for making a scene, and went back to my half eaten steak.

The women picked up their check and scurried away.

After finishing my meal, and while waiting for my check, the manager returned with a huge apple cobbler ala mode.

“Compliments of those soldiers,” he said. He also smiled and said the ladies tried to pay for my dinner, but that another couple had beaten them to it.

When I asked who, the manager said they had already left, but that the gentleman was a veteran, and wanted to take care of the wife of “one of our boys.”

With a lump in my throat, I gratefully turned to the soldiers and
thanked them for the cobbler.

Grinning from ear to ear, they came over and surrounded the booth.

“We just wanted to thank you, ma’am.

You know we can’t get into confrontations with civilians, so we
appreciate what you did.”

As I drove home, for the first time since my husband’s deployment, I didn’t feel quite so alone.

My heart was filled with the warmth of the other diners who stopped by my table, to relate how they, too, were proud of my husband, and would keep him in their prayers.

I knew their flags would fly a little higher the next day.

Perhaps they would look for more tangible ways to show their pride in our country, and the military who protect her.

And maybe, just maybe, the two women who were railing against our country, would pause for a minute to appreciate all the freedom America offers, and the price it pays to maintain it’s freedom.

As for me, I have learned that one voice CAN make a difference.

Maybe the next time protesters gather outside the gates of the base where I live, I will proudly stand on the opposite side with a sign of my own.

It will simply say, “Thank You!”

To those who fought for our Nation: Freedom has a flavor the protected will never know.


Please pray for God’s protection of our troops and HIS wisdom for their commanders.

Pass this on to as many as you think will respond.

“Lord, hold our troops in your loving hands. Protect them as they protect us.

Bless them and their families for the selfless acts they perform for us in our time of need. I ask this in the name of Jesus, our Lord and Savior.”

When you receive this, please stop for a moment and say a prayer for our ground, air and navy personnel in every area of the middle east.

There is nothing attached….

This can be very powerful….

Just send this to all the people in your address book.

Do not stop this prayer chain, please….

Of all the gifts you could give to anyone in the US Military, be it Air
Force, Army, Navy, Marines or National Guard, Prayer is the very best one…..Amen!

Nancy C.
Pittman Valley, AZ

I know that this could have been written by any number of military wives, or just supporters of our country…I know that I certainly have heard these same conversations in restaurants, coffee shops, banks, etc but I don’t respond.   I may just respond now, having thought about my “freedom” to do so.

THANK YOU to all the military men, women, and families in our country!   Our family does TRULY appreciate the sacrifices that you make for us on a daily basis!

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